Ships Log w32 – Beam Reach


The points of sail. A. in irons (into the wind); B. close hauled; C. beam reach; D. broad reach; E. running (the "no go zone" is shaded

Beam reach, meaning sailing across the wind or a precise point of sail, 45 degrees to the wind. I use this because I want to be precise when I talk about the voyage toward and through retirement.

First of all, why am I so concerned about this voyage?  Why not just go with the flow?  NPR came out with a poll and a series of articles this week, around retirement life, finances and health.  From the article, Robert Blendon, of the Harvard School of Public Health, says “People thinking about retirement don’t envision any of the potential problems that they could face”. “But you have to face up to them, because otherwise it’s very hard just when events start happening to respond.”  Their poll measured the concerns around health and finances for both those planning retirement and those already there.

Age to Retire – NPR Poll

The poll reports that people in retirement feel they are (17%) less happy and (24%) more stressed than the 5 years prior.  If we openly discuss the changes that occur in retirement and plan for those, do we become more optimistic?  For example, I talked with a retired person who did not expect that a lack of routine would be something that would affect them so.

I find it hard not to be Optimistic about the future.  (I repeat myself here) This is a life change and like all life changes, marriage, family, career, you plan for them and you get your thoughts together.  Over the last few weeks, my daughter, who in addition to her Mom and Sister, is planning her wedding.  The family is buzzing around these life change plans.  I am fascinated by drawing the parallel between her life change and mine.  I had some fun with these thoughts and I hope you do also, I think I have them nailed!

Here is a list of those parallel thoughts.

Wedding Parallel Thought Retirement
The venue for the affair Location Where to live post-retirement (check, done that)
The wedding dress What to wear Why would I ever need another new sport coat or tie?
The wedding rings Symbol of attainment Hmmm, my contented smile? (okay, a stretch), loss of dark circles under my eyes? Or my ever- “blonding” hair?
The reception Celebration A retirement party (got to get on that)
The invitee list Participants Our contacts – family, friends
The reception menu Meals Can we afford our current dining-out costs?
The Honeymoon Trips Need to plan our retirement trip
The cake, music, dancing Activities What we have as our hobbies and interests
The wedding budget Costs Our retirement budget (and everyone has one)

Ships Log w31 – Celestial Observation


Let’s see…. 33 years ago, there were no iPods, iPads, or even CDs.  We are talking 1978.  You really didn’t see many “personal” computers because they were all huge, air-conditioned machines with dumb terminals attached…yes, by wires!  Remember Simon, the game?  Or how about an Apple II computer costing $3,000?  The first cellular phone was introduced but the Fax machine would not show up until the following year. Space Wars video game was just catching fire.  Why all this nostalgia?

I was flying from Denver last night and the pilot came on the intercom and welcomed everyone to the flight.  He said we had a very special person on board, Steve, one of our flight attendants who was retiring and this was to be his last flight.  After 33 years, he was folding his wings.  Later, while serving us drinks, he tapped the person next to me, who was listening to his iPod, and said, “33 years ago, we didn’t have to tell people to turn those off”.  We laughed and started talking about everything that has occurred since then.

In 1978, I was a Registered Respiratory Therapist, specializing in Neonatal and Pediatric care.  I made $12/hour and was told the maximum I could make was $15/hour. I saved many lives back then in the ER and ICU.  I crafted ventilators out of tubing, jugs of water (water pressure), and oxygen.  I transported newborns and even scrubbed up for surgery because there was no Anesthesiologist available for an emergency cranial operation.  I worked on gunshot cases, motorcycle crash cases and even an “unexpected” delivery in our ER restroom (her mother said it couldn’t be, she just had the flu!).

I know I had to make a change to support a family and offer us a better future so I went back to college and changed professions to computer science or IT.  I took a job at Boeing and had to take a dollar less per hour but that was just for a short time.  I quickly made that back and started climbing in job and pay.  I look back now a wish I was still working in respiratory therapy but I cannot complain about where that decision, and many others, have taken me.

As I spoke with my seat mate on the plane, we shared the concept of retirement.  He, 15 years away, and I, 2 years.  He agreed that retirement was different these days….more a life change.  He told me he knew about people who didn’t know how to make the change or just couldn’t.  He shared a great story about a professor he once had who showed up for class wearing plaid shorts, tie-died shirt and flip-flops; you know, thongs.  The class thought this as strange and he announced that he was thinking about retiring.  Someone posed the question of when.  The professor answered, “when I have 2 bad days in a row!”.  What a great line!  I will retire when I have 2 bad days in a row….. just the thought of going to work, knowing you don’t have to be there….enought to make me smile and turn up my Bee Gees album.

Ships Log w30 – Dropping Anchor


The difficulty was that they were from such different backgrounds and different upbringing.  As kids, one was given up for adoption the other was part of a small, loving family. One, now an older, set-in-her-ways girl who knows how to manipulate people to get her way.  The other is much younger, by years, and delights in the pleasure of meeting new people and joining the fun at hand.

Their week together started out with a lot of argument and frustration which quickly turned to fights, tussle, growls, some whining, until one finally walked out. A sense of accomplishment was seen in the eyes of the winner who came forward as if to say, there, I showed her!  Seeking, but not getting any acknowledgement from us, she retreated to bed to replay the events that occurred.  Her solitude would not last long for in the end, they had to sleep together which brought on another fight over who’s bed was who’s.  They argued about possessions.  They fought over meals.  If one had something the other wanted, then an all-out battle ensued until broken up. They were so different. Could they ever get along….quietly?

Their week together ended playful but respectful and I think I finally came to understand that each of these dogs has her own sense of priority that really defines them.  One, a 3-year-old Jack Russell, Niki, where the other, Cleo, was an 8-month old Golden Retriever. Like I said, they had very distinct personalities that could be defined by their priorities.  I stopped to observe them and found the differences…

Niki - Jack Russel, Cleo-Golden

Niki, the Jack Russel was all about food, it came first.  She didn’t eat a lot and was pure muscle. But food could distract her from anything.  Whereas Cleo stopped anything just to go say hi to a new friend. She would leave a full bowl of food to run to the yard to say “hi”.  From there, it was all about playtime.  Niki obsessed about a ball and not just any ball – the one she held at that time.  Nothing distracted her from retrieving that particular ball, but food…or if Cleo got hold of it which is what started the arguments.  Niki would pursue that ball until she dropped. Cleo, she didn’t care what to play with as long it was what Niki had.  Niki’s next priority was the hunt, or kill… moles, rats, birds, anything small, while Cleo watched.  Each girl had her priorities and nothing could deter them.

From 4 legs to 2 legs in retirement….what priorities drive us? We come from different background and different upbringings but is there a common set of priorities or is each unique. I have talked with a number of retired folks and those planning to retire.  What are priorities and what should they be?  The initial review of many articles seems to indicate one of 2 sets of priority schemes….

One would have me focused on the fun aspects of retired life, mainly travel, projects, people and not to focus solely on finances.  This, to my initial eye seems the right frame of mind.  Tho other approach is to focus on money and be the driver of activities.  For those with limited funds, this may be the case.  I ask, does a fixed income encourage this priority scheme?

What I do know is that for me, I think a modification of the first is appropriate ASSUMING I have the finances to support them. This means a tight control of the budget as many retired folks do.

  • Freedom – do not want to get into a rut
  • Projects and creative outlets a must have to dictate the days/weeks
  • Family, friends are a big part
  • Travel limited to funds but wanting to find interesting towns/sites
  • Wine and dine – explore cooking, new recipes, new restaurants, good wines
  • Learning new things

Somewhere in there is money.  I also assume health trumps all but being in good health, it stays low.  So what are your priorities or what do foresee them being?  I would love to hear and share…..  Comment below